Posted in 2026, Books

Recent Reads

I’ve been on a memoir kick for the past few months. They are really enjoyable because I’ve been listening to them either through Spotify or Hoopla. I prefer listening to them because it makes me pay more attention, but there’s no plot to lose if I don’t. I like it best when the author is doing the reading.

I’ve listened to “This is Me: A Reckoning” by Hayden Panetierre, “You With the Sad Eyes” by Christina Applegate, “Hello, Molly!: A Memoir” by Molly Shannon, and just finished reading “Save Me the Plums” by Ruth Reichl.

I’ve always had a thing for non-fiction books and autobiographies. The first one I ever read was in elementary school and it was about Abigail Adams. I was fascinated by the look into an individual’s life and I’ve been curious about people ever since!

The three I listened to were so different from each other. Hayden was raised by a “Momager” who couldn’t or wouldn’t separate herself from her daughter’s career, leaving Hayden’s father and son to fend for themselves. Christina was raised by a single mother after her producer father dropped out and off to Northern California. Christina watched as her mother got into and eventually out of an abusive relationship. It felt like Hayden was treading lightly and making excuses for people in her life, whereas Christina didn’t care who she stomped on, and it was delightful to hear her “name names”. Unfortunately, Hayden suffered from addiction and recently passed away and Christina has dealt with breast cancer and now MS but she is still fighting strong. Hayden read with little emotion and Christina spoke softly, shouted, and cried along the way.

Molly Shannon’s memoir was a whole different story. Molly is probably the one of the three I knew the least about and other than her Super-stah and Mary Katherine Gallagher skits on Saturday Night Live, I haven’t seen her in anything. I did know her mother died when she was young, but not the circumstances. Her story was incredible sad in the tragic way her mother, younger sister, and cousin died in a car accident and she, her father, and older sister, Mary survived.

She talks of the time afterwards when her father was in the hospital recovering and learning to walk again and she and her sister lived with their aunt, whose daughter died in the accident. Her father lived there when he got out of rehabilitation but resented “the rules” of his brother in law and he, Mary, and Molly went home. This arrangement brought on years of co-dependence between Molly and her father.

He was the youngest of ten children and “everybody loved Jimmy Shannon”. He was a real prankster and loved to challenge his daughters and their friends with “I bet you can’t….” At one point he continued to challenge them to sneak onto an airplane and fly somewhere. He was shocked when Molly and her friend managed to do this, flying from Cleveland to New York! He tried to make them do the same to return home, but couldn’t find another gullible gate attendant so he had to pay to fly them home. This is just one of the stories she talks about that had me laughing out loud in the car. But honestly, some of the stories horrified me and I can’t believe none of his siblings stepped in to help. Molly talks about the mothers of her friends though who were always there for her.

Molly holds nothing back, talking about how happy she was to leave for college to get away from the co-dependent relationship, how angry she would be when he would be sober for years and then go on a bender, and how grateful she was for her final phone calls with him while he was dying from cancer.

I enjoyed listening to her read so much, I listened right on through the acknowledgements and when she would mention a name I would think, “oh, yeah, I remember them!”

That last one, and this one I read, was “Save Me the Plums” by Ruth Reichl. She was a famous New York Times restaurant critic who became the Editor in Chief of Gourmet magazine. This memoir is about her time at Gourmet but it includes much more, beginning with growing up in New York City with her parents. Her father, a German immigrant and book cover designer and her mother who suffered from bi-polar disease and was always longing for the finer things in life. Ruth discovered Gourmet Magazine when she was eight years old and it coincided with her love of food and cooking. Or maybe it was because of it. She wasn’t a typical Editor in Chief because she was a writer and had never been a manager, so with some convincing she accepted the position.

She held the position for from 1999 to 2009 until the day Si Newhouse, the owner of Condé Nast, called a meeting of employees of Gourmet magazine and announced they were closing down the magazine and “your key cards will work today and tomorrow until 5pm”.

I love her writing and I think the audiobook would have been good too (although it’s not read by her) but it’s not on Hoopla and I have to wait until the 19th of the month to listen to an audio book there (I used up all my audiobook time!).

I’ve moved on and am now going to listen to Jacqueline Kennedy’s conversations on life with John F. Kennedy. They are interviews conducted by Arthur M. Schlesinger Jr in 1964, approximately seven months after the president’s death. The transcripts were kept under lock and key for 50 years and after reading them, Caroline made the decision to have them released for publication. I’m only on the introduction but GoodRead reviews have been positive.

What types of books do you enjoy reading? Do you prefer books or audiobooks? I always have a book to read and the audiobooks are for my trips to and from work or wherever and also on my lunchtime walks. It has really upped my book totals!

These books don’t stop me from going to the library and borrowing books!

Posted in 2026, family

Finding Your Relatives

My mother (front left) and family about mid-1942

I follow a few other ancestry writers and one of them, Trisha, introduced me to a great show on BYU TV called “Relative Race”.

Four teams, in cars, start out from the same location in different directions with an individual time allotted that includes a challenge once they get to the town of their relative.

Using only paper maps from one location to the next, their clock stops when they get to the home of their relative.

They introduce themselves, and ask “whose relative are you?” On some teams, it might be only one person searching for relatives, on other teams, both.

They meet and visit with their relatives, and it looks to me like on some occasions they meet the relative at an Airbnb set up by production.

That night, the teams get on a Group FaceTime type chat, Dan the host comes on and he will announce the winner for the day. They are the team that came closest to their allotted time. The loser is the one who took the longest. If they are last for the day, they get a strike. 3 strikes and you’re out. Goodbye, go home (although they still got to meet the relatives just not on camera). Season 16, appears to be different and the team with 3 strikes still travels, but maybe they just don’t get a chance for the $10,000 prize at the end when they do the big, final challenge. I’m at that episode now!

Did I mention, they give up their phones and only have flip phones? Yes! They can text each other, which on occasion they do. Dan texts them in the morning with their next destination, welcomes them when they arrive to the town with their challenge location, and when that’s complete gives them the relative’s location.

The race is run primarily on the East Coast. But one season had them all over the United States and then flew the people who ended up in California back to the final location. This season they started in Alabama. One team has gone to Louisiana and Texas, another upper Florida and Georgia, another North Carolina, to Maryland, and Pennsylvania, and another to North Carolina, West Virginia, Ohio, and Indiana.

The teams themselves and the family they are seeking tugs at my heart strings. It isn’t run-of-the-mill relatives they are looking for, it is FAMILY. The majority were adopted at birth or a very young age. Some knew they were adopted, some only found out a few years ago. You hear their stories at the beginning of the season and again throughout the season but not to excess.

Maybe I enjoy this show because we found out my mother had a different father than her siblings! She had passed away years before we found out, but it made me wonder if there were differences in looks and personality that made anyone go “hmmm”.

Obviously, DNA testing is done prior to all this and family members contacted to see if they would be willing to meet with the contestant. Once they are selected, I’m sure they are situated for maximum show drama impact!

In earlier seasons, teams weren’t always very nice to each other. A team each season would really be looking to get the edge on everyone else. Sometimes the daily winners get to put a time penalty on another team and they would target a team to ensure a strike. but every season the show evolves and those types of “rewards” have gone by the wayside.

You can find BYU TV in your streaming channels if you have a Smart TV or you can watch episodes on YouTube through the Relative Race channel.

If you love heartwarming family reunions with a little suspense thrown in, you will enjoy this show!

Here’s a link to Trisha’s blog post about her love for the show!

Have you ever watched it and if so, did you enjoy it?